Is this "emotional "?

I am a single 36 year old single woman. My father is what I would call overbearing, but recently I read a book called emotional . I think I could be dealing with something more than overbearing. My father was always over my shoulder, telling me what to do and how to live. He is still this way because I have never been able to put up my own walls and have my own personality. I love my father, but I am ready to admit that he has caused major problems for me. I am single, and he is the reason why. He has pushed every man out of my life, and every man I have been with cannot deal with his intruding behavior. It was only recently (my 36th BD) where I finally realized that he has caused so much damage for me. I have lost love and relationships and I am starting to blame him for it. I worked at my local park and rec day care lab for 18 months and could not tell my father because of the disappointment he would have for what he calls “wasting my talent” (I have a degree in education and he feels like I should be at a university not a day care) and the feeling of keeping this secret from him caused me so much pain and stress. When he finally heard what I was doing (via my brother), he got me to quit the Lab job and gave me money to live off of until I could get a job that he felt was good for me. I know I am at fault for letting him be in control of so much of life, but I am now looking to make a change. Turning 36 last week was a real eye opener and recently hearing that the EX my dad pushed away is getting married, has really made me mad at my father. The loss of my mother 2 years ago has only made him worse (he gave me her platinum wedding ring band and calls me just to make sure I am wearing it and have not lost it “because it is so valuable”) and I am not sure if what I am dealing with is simply an overbearing father with a weak daughter, or this term I am learning more about called emotional . Any help or advice would really help. Anyone that has successfully handled and repaired something like this?